Week 3 | Choose Wisely

Mar 20 Week 3 | Choose Wisely

If you are like most people, you can’t tell your life story without referencing people who played significant roles along the way. The same is true of your faith story. In this third week of Roots, we discuss the role that good and healthy relationships play in the development of our faith.


13 Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm. Proverbs 13:20

Biblically speaking, a fool is someone who knows the difference between right and wrong, but doesn’t care. A wise person is one who knows the difference and seeks to do what is right. Fools see life as disconnected. They live as if today’s decisions will have no impact on tomorrow. A wise person understands that life is connected and that today’s decisions have the potential to create tomorrow’s reality.


1. What is the promise to those who “walk” with the wise?

2. What is the consequence of being a companion of fools?

3. Based on your experiences, why do you think Solomon highlights what a person becomes (i.e., “wise”) in the first half of the verse, while he highlights what will happen (i.e., “suffering harm”) in the second half?

4. Looking back, are there people you feel God providentially (helpful, in good time) brought into your life at crucial times? Who? How did God use them? If you have children, have you seen God providentially bring someone into your children’s lives? “Your friends will determine the direction and quality of your life.”

5. Was that true for you when you were in school? Is it still true, or as true for you, now that you are in a different stage of life?


The promise from Proverbs 13:20 can be read alongside a similar warning from the New Testament: Bad company corrupts good character (1 Corinthians 15:33). The Bible makes it clear that certain relationships are pivotal in our spiritual development, while others can lead us in directions we never intended to go. But we don’t live in a vacuum. We’re surrounded by wisdom and foolishness from all sides. Is it possible to completely ignore the companionship of fools? Should you? How do you balance the relationships in your life that strengthen your faith and the relationships that could inhibit your spiritual growth, knowing full well that these relationships could also be pivotal for others to draw closer to God?